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The Conference

The Conference

While the title sounds like something John Grisham would write, I can assure it is nothing of the sort.

In fact, I will tell you right now, if you’re expecting intriguing characters with deep rooted unresolved issues, or cliff hangers, you won’t find it here.

The Conference I’m referring to is the Conciliation Conference, which is an initiative of the Family Court as a form of Alternate Dispute Resolution.

I think every now and then it’s important that people are aware of the various processes and steps in the Family Law process.

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"Everything is divided 50/50, right?"

“Everything is divided 50/50, right?”

If I had a penny for every time that question was asked, or if that statement was true, I probably wouldn’t be working. Where did this myth start and why is it still floating around? Is it something that is just assumed by virtue of being in a couple?

Anyway, FYI the answer is NO; and neither is 50/50 the starting point.

Unfortunately, it appears this guy understood this common myth to be gospel and literally divided everything in half before obtaining some family law advice:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3129366/I-ve-left-half-Spurned-boyfriend-chops-owns-two-splitting-girlfriend-including-car-TV-iPhone.html

Lucky there weren’t any kids involved.

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IN CHILDREN WE TRUST

IN CHILDREN WE TRUST

I am now a grandfather and have been practising in Family Law for almost 30 years. Recently I read a poem written by my 15 year old nephew. Isaac brought home to me the true perspective of life through a young person’s eyes.

The reason it had such an effect on me was because it highlighted just how important it is to listen to and appreciate our children’s perspective of emotional situations.

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Help! I’m about to be cross-examined in a Trial! What should I know and what do I do?!

Help! I’m about to be cross-examined in a Trial! What should I know and what do I do?!

Being called to give evidence in court is stressful. Here are some tips which we think are important for you to know:

  • Dress appropriately: Don’t wear Louboutin heels or an expensive Brioni suit in an attempt to convey that you’re rich and powerful. Likewise, don’t turn up in unwashed rags in an effort to convey that you’re poor (and so you really need all the money you can get). Neither do you have to dress as though you’re part of the Amish culture if you’re trying to convey that you are conservative and caring. You are not a character, you are you and you are involved in this case. The clothes you wear should not be distracting; they should be comfortable and should simply convey that you consider this an important matter and that you have respect for the court.Men should wear a shirt with a collar and pants. No jeans, t-shirts or sunglasses on the head – this is not casual Friday and you are not at the pub. Women should wear dress shirts and pants or skirts or dresses. When I say dresses, I mean modest dresses. What works for you on a Saturday night out on the town will not work the same way for you in court. Avoid too much make-up and heavy perfume – actually, I think that one is just a general life rule.

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Grandparents and child access

The Family Law Act states that children have a right to spend time on a regular basis with, and communicate on a regular basis with, both their parents and other people significant to their care, welfare and development including grandparents. Since the grandchildren obviously aren’t in a position to enforce that right and if the parents are not facilitating the contact with the grandparents, it will be up to the grandparent to take action to do so. But don’t just sit there and hope for the best- the longer you leave it, the weaker your case gets.

The first step is to attempt to resolve the matter by way of Mediation with a qualified Family Dispute Resolution mediator. If the Mediation is not successful, then unfortunately you may have little option but to commence Family Court proceedings.

To succeed in the Family Court, the grandparents must satisfy the court that they are significant adults in the lives of the grandchildren and that such time would be beneficial. The court will consider:

  1. The likely effect of any changes in the child’s circumstances, including the likely effect on the child of any separation from any grandparent with whom they have been living.
  2. The capacity of any other person, including any grandparent, to provide for the needs of the child, including emotional and intellectual needs.

In many cases well-meaning grandparents who make such an application to the courts come up against vigorous opposition from the parents of the children in question. There are many reasons for such opposition but alcohol, abuse, drug addiction, family & domestic violence and poor relations between the grandparents and their own children (the parents of the grandchildren) are often at least partially to blame.

If it can be shown that the grandparents have historically been involved in the life of the grand-children, the Court will be inclined to allow the grandparent to continue this relationship despite the breakdown of the parent’s relationship and their subsequent refusal to let the grandchildren spend time with the grandparents.

If you’re not sure what your options are, don’t rely on Heather down the road for advice - make sure you see a lawyer who actually knows what they’re talking about. Little birdies generally cause more problems than not, so set up your case properly from the beginning.

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Facebook and Twitter and…Court - OH NO!

Facebook and Twitter and…Court - OH NO!

When the Facebook craze was in full effect I told myself I would never get an account. The way I saw it was why would I want to be “friends” with someone who I knew in grade 2, where our interaction was solely playing Lego together, and now all of a sudden some 20 years later he thinks that we’re old mates.

Don’t get me wrong, I have a Facebook account. I primarily use it to keep in touch with family and friends overseas and to share my frustration or delight in anything that happens in sport i.e. my New England Patriots winning the Super Bowl this year – Go Pats!

However I’m often both shocked and appalled at the things people post on Facebook these days. It’s incredible what happens when some people get behind a keyboard. While I understand Facebook and other social media outlets are platforms for people to opine about their thoughts, ideas, views and even what they ate for dinner, it is important to be mindful of what you post on the internet, including and especially social media sites.

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Mediate! How? I don’t trust the Bastard!!!

Mediate! How? I don’t trust the Bastard!!!

Mediation is not about trust but more about understanding betrayal.

Relationships, whether it be in our personal life or our employment and business activities; when it all goes south, how do we approach resolution when we are feeling so hurt and vengeful? How can we get what we consider to be a just result in the circumstances?

Emotional stress erodes our being until we self-doubt and our self-respect seems to be travelling on a different bus. Some of us urge Karma to find the solution. Some bargain with God and/or a less pure entity, but at the end of the day we want it over: EXCISED FROM OUR LIVES; BUT HOW?

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Love is Patient - Love is Kind - But are we?

In relation to same-sex marriage, we continue to lag behind the rest of the world. Behind 20 countries in fact. Take the United States for example. Out of 50 States, 37 have legalised same-sex marriage. That’s 74%of the whole country, including Alabama. I’m talking about a Bible Belt State that continues to recognise marriages between first cousins, and Australia’s worried about the gays? What are we afraid of? That a union between Mr & Mr, or Mrs & Mrs, will destroy the sanctity of marriage? Given the current divorce rate, I really don’t think there’s any danger of that happening.  

Despite our reluctance to join the rest of the world, there has been some fairly significant progress made in terms of recognising same-sex relationships within our legal system. In November 2008, Federal Parliament passed a same-sex law reform package, which prompted changes to 85 Commonwealth Acts, removing differential treatment of same-sex couples and their children across a number of areas of law. In terms of the changes within Family Law, all States and Territories now recognise that a de facto relationship can exist between two people of the same sex, and that same-sex de facto couples have the same Family Law rights as heterosexual de facto couples.

In relation to that ad which was strategically aired during the Mardi Gras last Saturday. Dear Australian Marriage Forum, the dark ages called - they want their ignorance back. 

First off, that’s a mighty fine looking high horse you've got there.

Secondly, I refer to your comments in relation to marriage equality forcing a child to ‘miss out on a mother or a father’. From a Family Law perspective, I can assure you that having a mother and father by no means precludes a child from an unfortunate and difficult upbringing. I’m confident in saying that I honestly don’t believe that any of my counterparts would disagree with me on that one - regrettably, sometimes we see mothers and/or fathers at their worst.

Thirdly, your comments are not only an affront the gay community – they also offend all those families out there who don’t fit the nuclear mould. For example, single parent families, and families in which grandparents are raising their grandchildren because for one reason or another, the child’s parents are unable to parent.

Finally, I draw your attention to Section 60CA of the Family Law Act 1975 (Cth). In making parenting Orders, the Family Court is bound by ‘the paramountcy principle’. This means that in making a parenting Order, ‘a Court must regard the best interests of the child as the paramount consideration’. In making this determination, the Court must contemplate as a primary consideration the benefit to the child of having a meaningful relationship with both of its parents. The definition of ‘parent’ goes beyond biological, and can relate to adoptive parents. No mention of gender, no requirement for ‘parents’ to be of heterosexual persuasion. Methinks there may be something in that. 

A nuclear family structure is not a guarantee for a happy family. A happy family is a guarantee of a happy family - it’s as simple as that. Single parent, same-sex parents, blended families, married couples, de facto couples – no particular family structure has the monopoly in the happy-and-well-adjusted stakes.

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Living apart, together!

You may be forced to live separately by choice or by necessity including maintaining separate residences. You may have many reasons for doing this including work availability, care of elderly family relatives in another city or country or to support adult children as they pursue university and career opportunities far afield.

However, if you live separately from your partner, are you still in a relationship and what should happen if you break up? What happens if you have drifted apart?

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Won’t somebody please think of the children

Won’t somebody please think of the children

Going through a separation is a pretty awful experience, and it’s not something I can try to sugar-coat. It’s even worse when you have kids; they didn’t ask for any of this, they’re just dragged along for the ride.

So how do you protect your kids from the perils and pitfalls of separation? Here are some basic rules:

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The To Do's Before the I Do's

THE TO DO’S BEFORE THE I DO’S

Marriage is about more than just the loving union of two people—it’s also about the union of financial assets and liabilities, and families. Or, as some like to say, it’s about halving your rights and doubling your duties.

There are good reasons why you should consider signing a Financial Agreement before you marry or commit yourself to a de-facto relationship. However, not everyone needs a Financial Agreement. Quite apart from the legal issues (which you can discuss with a solicitor), the answer to this question will depend on a number of practical considerations, as follows:

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Navigating the Family Court

Navigating the Family Court

The Family Court of Western Australia is not the sort of place anyone wants to end up in. However, in some matters, it is unfortunately unavoidable. Should you ever find yourself parking under the Perth Concert Hall, and the only show you’re going to see is your life played out publically in front of you (and your ex-partner and respective Solicitors with front row seats), here are a few hints that may make a pretty tough situation a little easier:

Security Check: When you enter the Court, you will be required to walk through a metal detector, and your belongings will be run through a scanner machine, a la the Airport. I’ve seen the security guards confiscate all sorts of sharp metal objects, so leave these at home. I’m sure that whoever penned the The Little Book of Calm would tell you to also take the opportunity to close your eyes, and pretend that you are about to board a plane to some exotic location. No judgment - whatever works for you.

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Can you trust your Trust? Is your Trust a SHAM?

Can you trust your Trust? Is your Trust a SHAM?

Riddle me this:

  • Has your Trust been created to evade legal obligations?
  • Is there a disparity between actual transactions and your Trust Deed?
  • Are you trying to mislead others in respect of your rights and obligations under the Trust Deed?

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, then I am pointing my finger at you, and telling you that your Trust looks like a sham; and your ex could soon be having a bite of that tasty looking cherry of a Trust in the Family Court!

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Am I or aren't I? Part 2

Am I or aren't I?  Part 2

For those who have not read Part I of the blog please do so before reading any further Am I or aren't I Part 1.

For those of you who read the blog last week you’ll remember that I had left off with our client dying in hospital shortly after being cross examined.

The next day in Court we had the unfortunate duty of notifying the Federal Magistrate what had just happened and without missing a beat we made an Oral Application that our client’s nephew, as executor of our client’s estate, carry on the litigation. That was always going to be an uphill battle and it was rejected as there was the need for probate to be obtained on our client’s Will. It was a hurdle of course but one that we did not think would be any issue in overcoming. We were wrong. Our Application was met with a caveat in the Supreme Court put on by the other party’s solicitors as a result of our client having other family that was not in the Will. Notice had to be given to the other family members as to whether they wanted to intervene in the proceedings. That was met with responses of none of the family wanting to have anything to do with our client or the proceedings.

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Why is marriage about Sex?

WHY IS MARRIAGE ABOUT SEX?

Mankind, from the earliest of times, has been driven to live within a community and to have the intimacy of a loving and committed relationship with the person of their choice.

By Christian tradition this relationship would only be solemnised by a Christian Church in the form of marriage if the union was between a man and a woman.

In the mid-19th Century, the Courts defined marriage as “the voluntary union for life of one man and one woman to the exclusion of all others.

S5(1) of the Marriage Act 1961 continues this definition; “the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life”

Why do we as a society, refuse to consider or allow a conscious vote by our elected representatives to determine whether the fundamental right of an individual to choose with whom they wish to enter into a union to the exclusion of all others for life should or should not be solemnised? The Answer must be fear.

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Am I or Aren’t I?

Am I or Aren’t I?

For all our faithful blog readers out there you have no doubt read our absolutely top notch blogs from my colleagues. In case you haven’t noticed we do things a bit different here at Butlers. We like to make the law easy and accessible to everyone, and it should be.

For all of our first time readers you will find that these blogs are informative and they give you guidance if you’re about to get into a relationship, or are in a relationship or if you’ve just got out of a relationship.

I thought I’d change things up a bit and share a personal experience that I had 2 years into practicing. Now before you feel the need to let out a groan, just give me the benefit of the doubt and have a read.

I’m often met with the response of “Oh wow, that must be so tough” or “I don’t know how you do it” when I tell people that I’m a Family Lawyer.

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“I’m a sperm donor!” he said. “I’m a parent!” he said. WRONG.

“I’m a sperm donor!” he said. “I’m a parent!” he said. WRONG.

Well, at least for legal purposes, in Western Australia.

When it comes to matters of artificial conception, the Artificial Conception Act 1985 (WA) states the following:

  1. if a man provides genetic material to a woman, and that woman uses his genetic material to become pregnant via an artificial fertilisation procedure, then the man “shall be conclusively presumed not to have caused the pregnancy” and “is not the father of any child born as a result of the pregnancy”.
  2. if a “woman undergoes, with the consent of her de facto partner, an artificial fertilisation procedure in consequence of which she becomes pregnant… then the de facto partner of the pregnant woman, shall be conclusively presumed to be a parent of the unborn child” and “is a parent of any child born as a result of the pregnancy”.

I don’t know about you, but my first reaction is that that first part does not sit in accordance with what I learnt from Maury Povich.

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When love hurts...

When love hurts...

I’m a glass half full kind of guy. I like to think that we live in a world where for the most part people are decent.

Now, you don’t have to be a sports fan like myself to know the trouble the National Football League is facing in light of the recent Ray Rice domestic violence incident. The video footage released by TMZ showed the Baltimore Raven’s star running back strike his then fiancé, Janay Palmer, with a left hook which led to her head being bounced off an elevator rail. It was enough to make anyone feel absolutely sick to their stomach.

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Handing back the Rose: what The Bachelor has taught us about broken engagements

Handing back the Rose:  what The Bachelor has taught us about broken engagements

One minute he was the Bachelor. The next minute, to the disappointment of Barry-White-voice-loving women everywhere, he was suddenly engaged. In South Africa by the way – how exotic. And then, shock horror, it was all off. Poor ol’ Sam - if they can’t make it, what hope do the rest of us mere mortals have? And apparently, Lisa was pregnant. But really, she wasn’t. And now? Louise is the object of his affection. I just can’t keep up. Who would ever have thought that there would be such a dramatic and surprising ending to such a sophisticated and scholarly example of reality television?

Just in case you’re not picking up what I’m putting down, yes, that was an oxymoron, and, yes I’m being facetious. I haven’t had my morning coffee yet. But what lesson can we all take away from this whole fracas? Spare a thought for the engagement ring that was presented to Blake’s beloved betrothed, albeit short lived. That sparkly little number from the most highly named-dropped jeweller in Sydney. Who shall remain unnamed. Unless they agree to pay me a commission. In diamonds. #BUNDAFORROSIE – you are my inspiration.

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“Are you not entertained?”

“Are you not entertained?”- Why family violence is currently front page material for all the wrong reasons

Anyone who knows me knows that I am a bit of a cliché when it comes to being a redhead with a temper. The issue that has recently attracted my ire is that of the deranged chef in Queensland who brutally murdered and then ATE his partner. To say this crime is horrific is an understatement. However, what is more horrific is the front page of Queensland’s own Courier Mail in response to the crime. The front page showed a picture of the victim wearing a bikini and in a provocative pose, with the headline “Monster Chef and the She Male”.

The fact that Ms Prasetyo was a trans-gender female and an escort is irrelevant. That the media has spun the story to put those two facts front and centre reeks of victim-shaming. Honestly, it’s 2014 and we are still perpetuating the “she had it coming” defense?  She was a real person, with a family and a life, and that life was taken away from her by the man that she was married to. By the way, her Mother has told reporters that she worked as an escort to support her family and put her little sisters through school- you don’t see that in any headlines do you?

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